Dr. Shadé Zahrai

These have emotional profiles attached to them.

And so when we're deciding whether to do anything, to take the step, to say yes, to ask them out,

We're going through this checklist of, can I deal with the emotions of this thing if it doesn't work out?

Because our brain is going through that process of all the ways that it won't work out.

And if we don't believe that we can handle whatever emotion comes, we will not take the step.

And that's why getting better at handling and harnessing the emotions that come makes everything in life so much easier.

I'm going to share a super simple strategy here.

It's called the opposite action strategy.

It's so easy.

When we are overcome with some kind of a negative emotion in relation to a self-doubt that we have, what usually happens to our body?

And what usually happens to shoulders or neck or posture?

Oh, we kind of shrink and like feel like we want to hide.

We want to hide.

Exactly.

And so what the opposite action strategy tells us is from dialectical behavior therapy.

It simply says when there is no physical threat, do the opposite of what your body's telling you to do.

Do the opposite of what your body's telling you to do.

So instead of withdrawing, sit at the end of your seat, engage, look at the person, bring your shoulders back.

I'm going to share again another really interesting tool that comes from the world of research.

It was just published recently.