Dr. Shadé Zahrai

So we find though that 90% of people, if we haven't had this conversation, I should have asked you that at the very beginning.

When we ask this question, 90% of people will say that it is, or 95% will say it is confidence.

Self-confidence.

confidence.

And so many people, so much of the population are waiting for that feeling of confidence before they take that step.

They say, I'll know when I'm ready.

That feeling of confidence that we wait for, actually, when we look at the literature, it does not come before we take the action.

It comes after we take the action because the brain needs to see yourself doing the thing.

It gets a proof point.

It gets an evidence point.

Hey, I can do this.

That then builds a degree of skill and competence.

Hey, I did it and I was okay and I got better, which then boosts your self-efficacy.

And then that creates momentum and motivation.

And that is the feeling that we've associated with confidence.

So what do we need before it?

Well, when we actually look at the word confidence, so I think this is where the mix-up happened.

When we look at the origins of the word confidence, it comes from the words in Latin, con and fidere, meaning with trust.

And so really what we need before we take action is not that feeling that we're waiting for,

It's self-trust, trusting that you can handle whatever comes your way, whether you succeed, whether you fail, whether you bounce back, whether you bounce, whatever it is, you will be okay.