Dr. Shadé Zahrai

I will be taking learning programs.

I'll be doing training internally, maybe shadowing some people.

Now, when we get to our final 30 days in that 90 day period, that's when I'm implementing.

That's when I'm developing a strategy for what my next 12 months is going to look like.

That's how I'm going to ensure when I start this role, I'll be able to hit the ground running.

And you just say it with so much clarity and conviction that they will be blown away.

Is to not bow out before the race.

Essentially, don't take yourself out, back yourself.

And something that's really valuable here is what we also know when we've looked at neuroscience studies is that women tend to evaluate rejection or

harder than men, in the sense that we deem it to be much worse than, for example, a man may.

So we have a tendency to really blow it out of proportion.

And that's why we often don't want to try something if we don't think we're going to succeed.

We're keeping ourselves safe, again, at the function of the brain.

So if you can say to yourself, I'm not taking myself out of this race, I'll let them take me out if they don't think I'm suited, but I'm going to put my best foot forward.

I'm also going to remind myself that even if it doesn't work out, that is not a verdict on me.

I'm not going to make that mean something about me.

I'm just going to learn and do better next time.

when you can frame it that way and also start to get more comfortable with rejection.

So there's this idea of rejection therapy.

Now, the principle behind it is that if you fear something, you're going to avoid something.