Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And let's say there was a yellow car that was speeding by.

The person asking questions would say, how fast do you think the red car was going?

And because they're not thinking about the color of the car, they'll report a speed.

And then the next time they ask them, that person will say, yeah, it was a red car.

And so we need to be so mindful every time we relive something.

And this is why overthinking happens.

resentment, complaining is so dangerous.

We're rewiring this into our system and also just remembering the last time we remembered it.

But you know what's beautiful about that?

It means that you can actually change the meaning you're applying to these events.

And then when you start remembering the new meaning, you start to fundamentally change the memory.

Yes, yes.

You mentioned something that I love sharing about, which is the bad experiences that happen to us, the unfairness, the colossal pressure that we face, the whatever it is, the heartbreak, the early death, the challenges at work, business failure.

A lot of these things may lead to PTSD.

If something is traumatic enough, it will lead to PTSD.

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But did you know that there's quite a large number of people who never experienced PTSD, they experience post-traumatic growth.

We do not talk about this enough.

I've never heard of it either until I came across the research.

There was a really large number of people who don't go through the traumatic negative experience, they experience growth from that traumatic experience.