Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And then when they've had a look at what is causing the growth, there's one quality that they have.

It's curiosity.

They don't just accept the situation for what it was and then internalize it for what it was.

They ask questions about the situation.

Could I have changed this?

What could I have done differently?

How did I feel when that was happening?

What if I were to approach it this way?

They go through almost a process of self-inquiry and

Almost like coaching themselves to try and determine, okay, what actually happened and what was my function and can I change my interpretation?

And they use it to get better rather than become bitter.

And that is a powerful reminder to us that we can reclaim that autonomy.

So how do we do it?

How do we change these stories?

It's a process called narrative re-identification.

It comes from narrative therapy.

It's been around for decades and it's been proven to be highly, highly effective.

It just takes time.

Essentially, what you want to do is determine what is the story you're telling yourself.

So in Bruno's case, his story was that my life is more difficult than everyone else's.