Dr. Shadé Zahrai

You don't say, that's not right, Jay.

I was involved.

You guide the conversation, bring it back to the team, and then make it about the impact or the effort at the end.

And that way, it's a polite way to just remind the person, hey, you're on notice.

I was involved in this too.

Now, if it keeps happening, you want to have a conversation with that person, which is hard because again, if you lack acceptance, you're also going to feel very insecure.

What are they going to say?

What if they're going to hate me?

What if it's going to damage their relationship?

Have a conversation with them in a private environment and you would say, Hey Jay, I've noticed.

So you make it about an observation.

I've noticed that in the last three meetings,

When you have, so it's when you, when you have taken credit for the work that we've been involved in, when you, I feel, I feel like my contributions are not valued or appreciated.

And I would like, and I would like us to be a part of a team that recognizes each other.

Okay.

So when you, I feel, and I would like, and then what you want to do at the end is you

How do you feel about that?

Or what's going on for you when you take credit for this work?

Are you aware of it?

Allow them to speak.