Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And then again, you're politely highlighting to them, hey, I'm aware that you're taking my credit.

It's kind of not okay.

It's happened before.

How are we going to address this?

If it keeps happening, you would have a private conversation and say, look, if this does keep happening, I will mention it.

Every meeting that comes up where you do take the credit, I will jump in and say, hey, this was me too.

How do we make this work for the sake of our relationship, for the sake of our collaboration?

So you want to focus on assertiveness.

Tone is going to be important.

You don't want them to become combative, but also giving them an opportunity to defend themselves if they weren't aware of it.

You know, giving them the benefit of the doubt, which helps you feel like you're not going in there combative.

You're going in there with a collaborative view.

I could, I will list.

So if you just lose your job or you just got fired and you're generally what will happen is you will feel very low autonomy because these things are completely out of your control.

You might also feel a lack of agency.

Oh no, I got fired.

Does that mean my skills are not valuable?

You might then experience a lack of acceptance.

Oh no, I'm a failure.

I'm never going to be good enough.