Dr. Shadé Zahrai

Wow.

Now, when we think about what that means for us, when you're thinking about this from your own perspective, anyone who is watching or listening, what kind of scars are you carrying into every single conversation, every interaction, every meeting, every interview, every conversation with your loved one?

How is that affecting how you not only show up, but what you're interpreting and noticing that may not even be there?

Because until we're aware of these scars, we don't realize just how much they're creating the world that we're living in.

So I have an analogy that I love to share to help us understand what we're actually rewiring when we're talking about self-doubt.

Great.

So what I have here is two glasses filled with yellow water.

Now, if I were to take the ping pong ball.

And what does the ping pong ball represent?

The ping pong ball represents self-doubt.

In fact, both balls represent self-doubt.

Oh, they do.

And what's going to happen in the cups is it's going to help us understand different approaches to self-doubt.

So if I were to take the ping pong ball and place it on one of the glasses of water, what would happen to it?

The water represents how we see ourselves, our self-image.

Oh.

And so when we're talking about how doubt should be, because the goal, again, is not to eliminate the self-critical thoughts.

That's too high a standard we're setting for ourselves.

You can't do that.

That's the function of the brain, doing what it does.