Dr. Stephanie Sarkis

So if you show up early to something and you're the only one, there's only about two other people there, it can really put a lot of pressure on you socially to interact.

So that could be an issue.

Also, what do I do if I show up early and I don't have other people that I can kind of monitor or observe to see what I'm supposed to do?

It can create a lot of issues for people.

I think we need to look at that this is someone that's probably not doing this personally to you, right?

It's something that someone struggles with.

And people do live with shame and guilt because they're not able to be on time.

Now, if she's on time for work, maybe it's that there's immediate sanctions if she doesn't show up on time at work.

But we hope that the people that we live with, the people that we're related to are going to be a little bit easier on us and love us unconditionally.

And so we can be ourselves.

So there's not as much pressure.

So the flip side of that is that she's probably a wonderful person, has a great personality.

So we have to look at a relationship.

What's the other side of it?

Why did you fall in love with her in the first place?

And we all have stuff that, again, like you said, your partner's tolerant of your stuff.

So it's looking at, well, you know what?

Maybe they're late.

So let's figure out together how we can make sure that this doesn't happen.

Well, if you have ADHD or anxiety or depression that causes you to have issues with lateness, you're still responsible for the behavior.