Dr. Stephen Porges

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THE ED MYLETT SHOW · How to Rewire Your Body's Response to Stress, Trauma & Anxiety Feat. Dr. Stephen Porges · 14 Apr 2026 podcast

It's a strange world when we don't have a marker of saying, when do I have enough?

Is there a way to repair an event like that?

there's always so the issue is people always say the word sorry and they're really trying to get the guilt from themselves when they really want to listen to the other person so i use the term that if you trip me i don't want you to say you're sorry and then trip me tomorrow i want you to look at me and understand that i fell and that you were part of that

And I know that the intention wasn't to trip me, but I did fall.

And I think we want to know, in a sense, first of all, Ed, I want to basically let you know that you are a product of the world you grew up in and the world that we're part of.

And part of the parenting manual is for fathers to be basically, what do they call it?

rule makers and try to get kids to adhere to that without any acknowledgement of the great range of difficulties that many kids have in regulating their own biobehavioral state.

And that, to me, took decades.

So I had two boys.

They're now in their 40s.

But they were not easy to raise.

And the theory evolved with them.

And I would say that I became a better father and I also became a better son when I started to understand that behavioral regulation is not a...

Let's say it's not an operant, meaning it's not under total control.

If I say regulate your behavior and you're out of control, it's not going to happen.

If I say regulate your behavior or I'll give you a spanking, it's not going to happen.

Or if I give you an ice cream cone.

But if I take my son's hand and say, let's go for a walk outside or let's play or with one son, it was more like, have you eaten?

So we used to have a rule, and that was when he would come home from school, we wouldn't interrogate him or tell him what happened in school.

We would say, sit down and eat something, and then we'll talk.

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