Dr. Stuart Ablon

between where we expect people to be at certain ages and skill level. Kids' skills did not develop at the same rate despite heroic efforts from teachers, from parents, which is why like fifth graders now when I work with schools look a lot more like third graders. 12th graders look a lot more like 10th graders. And yes, 22-year-olds look a lot more like 19, 20-year-olds, things like that.

between where we expect people to be at certain ages and skill level. Kids' skills did not develop at the same rate despite heroic efforts from teachers, from parents, which is why like fifth graders now when I work with schools look a lot more like third graders. 12th graders look a lot more like 10th graders. And yes, 22-year-olds look a lot more like 19, 20-year-olds, things like that.

So things that were already challenging are more challenging. Adulting is harder than it used to be because a lot of the kids don't have the same skills.

So things that were already challenging are more challenging. Adulting is harder than it used to be because a lot of the kids don't have the same skills.

So things that were already challenging are more challenging. Adulting is harder than it used to be because a lot of the kids don't have the same skills.

Yeah. Well, so basically, you know, I have a lot of families that are very frustrated because they're like, my kid is not launching here. Yes. And I'm supporting them. And this is unsustainable. Yes. Now, where do parents typically go with that? I'm working with a few right now where they go with that is, so here's the plan. Yep. Here's what we are willing to do to support you.

Yeah. Well, so basically, you know, I have a lot of families that are very frustrated because they're like, my kid is not launching here. Yes. And I'm supporting them. And this is unsustainable. Yes. Now, where do parents typically go with that? I'm working with a few right now where they go with that is, so here's the plan. Yep. Here's what we are willing to do to support you.

Yeah. Well, so basically, you know, I have a lot of families that are very frustrated because they're like, my kid is not launching here. Yes. And I'm supporting them. And this is unsustainable. Yes. Now, where do parents typically go with that? I'm working with a few right now where they go with that is, so here's the plan. Yep. Here's what we are willing to do to support you.

Have you been in my house? By X date, you must have at least a part-time job and contributing this amount. By X date, you will have secured an apartment and have a full-time job. And, you know, at best, what you get is, okay, yeah, that sounds good. Yep, I'm good. Which, you know what I call that? I call that dissociative compliance.

Have you been in my house? By X date, you must have at least a part-time job and contributing this amount. By X date, you will have secured an apartment and have a full-time job. And, you know, at best, what you get is, okay, yeah, that sounds good. Yep, I'm good. Which, you know what I call that? I call that dissociative compliance.

Have you been in my house? By X date, you must have at least a part-time job and contributing this amount. By X date, you will have secured an apartment and have a full-time job. And, you know, at best, what you get is, okay, yeah, that sounds good. Yep, I'm good. Which, you know what I call that? I call that dissociative compliance.

Which means the kid is basically checked out, saying exactly what they think you want to hear so that they can get this over with because their concerns aren't around the table. Got it. So it's the same three-step process. Unless you want to do plan A or plan C, it needs to look like, because that was plan A, what I just said.

Which means the kid is basically checked out, saying exactly what they think you want to hear so that they can get this over with because their concerns aren't around the table. Got it. So it's the same three-step process. Unless you want to do plan A or plan C, it needs to look like, because that was plan A, what I just said.

Which means the kid is basically checked out, saying exactly what they think you want to hear so that they can get this over with because their concerns aren't around the table. Got it. So it's the same three-step process. Unless you want to do plan A or plan C, it needs to look like, because that was plan A, what I just said.

Yes. It needs to look like. So let's talk about how things are going, what you think about how things are going, your perspective, your point of view, what you're looking for, your goals. I'll share some of my concerns and let's see if we can figure out a plan together, at least in the short term, that's going to work for the both of us.

Yes. It needs to look like. So let's talk about how things are going, what you think about how things are going, your perspective, your point of view, what you're looking for, your goals. I'll share some of my concerns and let's see if we can figure out a plan together, at least in the short term, that's going to work for the both of us.

Yes. It needs to look like. So let's talk about how things are going, what you think about how things are going, your perspective, your point of view, what you're looking for, your goals. I'll share some of my concerns and let's see if we can figure out a plan together, at least in the short term, that's going to work for the both of us.

But you also don't want to be taken advantage of.

But you also don't want to be taken advantage of.

But you also don't want to be taken advantage of.