Dr. Stuart Ablon

It is. And it's just really hard because the algorithms of these things are meant to addict. I mean, let's be clear that they are built to addict. So there's a very powerful force going on here, but it's still the same three-step process. And what I find doing a lot of work with kids and adolescents around this is that kids share our concerns a lot of the time.

So we don't actually need to come barging in with our concerns and solutions. If we listen first, what we'll hear from kids is they're worried about a lot of the same things. And if that's the case, it opens up the door to collaboration where you're now working together against these addictive algorithms as opposed to sort of, you know, working against one another.

So we don't actually need to come barging in with our concerns and solutions. If we listen first, what we'll hear from kids is they're worried about a lot of the same things. And if that's the case, it opens up the door to collaboration where you're now working together against these addictive algorithms as opposed to sort of, you know, working against one another.

So we don't actually need to come barging in with our concerns and solutions. If we listen first, what we'll hear from kids is they're worried about a lot of the same things. And if that's the case, it opens up the door to collaboration where you're now working together against these addictive algorithms as opposed to sort of, you know, working against one another.

But it all starts with listening. You know, people... We actually created a series for how to talk to your kids about social media.

But it all starts with listening. You know, people... We actually created a series for how to talk to your kids about social media.

But it all starts with listening. You know, people... We actually created a series for how to talk to your kids about social media.

I mean, it's the biggest parenting challenge of our generation, I think. But the funny thing about it is we call it how to talk to your kids about social media. It's not how to talk to your kids about social media. It's actually how to listen to your kids about social media. And it's exactly what we talked about before. Pick a specific instance.

I mean, it's the biggest parenting challenge of our generation, I think. But the funny thing about it is we call it how to talk to your kids about social media. It's not how to talk to your kids about social media. It's actually how to listen to your kids about social media. And it's exactly what we talked about before. Pick a specific instance.

I mean, it's the biggest parenting challenge of our generation, I think. But the funny thing about it is we call it how to talk to your kids about social media. It's not how to talk to your kids about social media. It's actually how to listen to your kids about social media. And it's exactly what we talked about before. Pick a specific instance.

You know, maybe it's you pick your child up at school and they're glued to their phone when you're wanting to talk to them. Right. Pick a specific instance. Okay. Decide which plan you're going to use. If you're going to try this collaborative problem solving, you're going to start by getting their concern, their perspective, their point of view on the table. Right. You'll express your concern.

You know, maybe it's you pick your child up at school and they're glued to their phone when you're wanting to talk to them. Right. Pick a specific instance. Okay. Decide which plan you're going to use. If you're going to try this collaborative problem solving, you're going to start by getting their concern, their perspective, their point of view on the table. Right. You'll express your concern.

You know, maybe it's you pick your child up at school and they're glued to their phone when you're wanting to talk to them. Right. Pick a specific instance. Okay. Decide which plan you're going to use. If you're going to try this collaborative problem solving, you're going to start by getting their concern, their perspective, their point of view on the table. Right. You'll express your concern.

You'll collaborate.

You'll collaborate.

You'll collaborate.

You know, it's really interesting. I've noticed I've typically worked with children, adolescents, occasional young adult. I work with more young adults now than I ever have. And there's a reason for that. Because in essence, young adults aren't looking like what young adults used to look like. And what I mean by that is thanks to the pandemic, there's a gap between

You know, it's really interesting. I've noticed I've typically worked with children, adolescents, occasional young adult. I work with more young adults now than I ever have. And there's a reason for that. Because in essence, young adults aren't looking like what young adults used to look like. And what I mean by that is thanks to the pandemic, there's a gap between

You know, it's really interesting. I've noticed I've typically worked with children, adolescents, occasional young adult. I work with more young adults now than I ever have. And there's a reason for that. Because in essence, young adults aren't looking like what young adults used to look like. And what I mean by that is thanks to the pandemic, there's a gap between

between where we expect people to be at certain ages and skill level. Kids' skills did not develop at the same rate despite heroic efforts from teachers, from parents, which is why like fifth graders now when I work with schools look a lot more like third graders. 12th graders look a lot more like 10th graders. And yes, 22-year-olds look a lot more like 19, 20-year-olds, things like that.