Dr. Sunita Sah

So if you're socialized to comply from a young age, if you're rewarded for being compliant, and I know I was, you probably were. I don't know if you were.

So if you're socialized to comply from a young age, if you're rewarded for being compliant, and I know I was, you probably were. I don't know if you were.

That's fascinating. So for many of us... Yeah, yeah.

That's fascinating. So for many of us... Yeah, yeah.

That's fascinating. So for many of us... Yeah, yeah.

That was encouraged, right?

That was encouraged, right?

That was encouraged, right?

One of the things that I really noticed in the people that I've interviewed is if you have seen your parents defy as well, it's so powerful. And I do have one or two moments where my parents did defy, even though they were compliant most of the time. And that stayed with me.

One of the things that I really noticed in the people that I've interviewed is if you have seen your parents defy as well, it's so powerful. And I do have one or two moments where my parents did defy, even though they were compliant most of the time. And that stayed with me.

One of the things that I really noticed in the people that I've interviewed is if you have seen your parents defy as well, it's so powerful. And I do have one or two moments where my parents did defy, even though they were compliant most of the time. And that stayed with me.

Yes. And it changed my view of compliance and defiance being personality traits. I realized this is a skill. We can choose to use it or not, because even the most compliant person, my mother, she does all the shopping, the groceries, looking after all the family. I had very neatly put her into the box of being compliant. And one day when she was defiant, I just... just blew my mind.

Yes. And it changed my view of compliance and defiance being personality traits. I realized this is a skill. We can choose to use it or not, because even the most compliant person, my mother, she does all the shopping, the groceries, looking after all the family. I had very neatly put her into the box of being compliant. And one day when she was defiant, I just... just blew my mind.

Yes. And it changed my view of compliance and defiance being personality traits. I realized this is a skill. We can choose to use it or not, because even the most compliant person, my mother, she does all the shopping, the groceries, looking after all the family. I had very neatly put her into the box of being compliant. And one day when she was defiant, I just... just blew my mind.

I was like, wow, that's so impressive. She's actually really strong and she can be defiant when she needs to be.

I was like, wow, that's so impressive. She's actually really strong and she can be defiant when she needs to be.

I was like, wow, that's so impressive. She's actually really strong and she can be defiant when she needs to be.

If I can do it with the upbringing I had, I think most people can learn how to defy. It's just you have to learn that skill set. You have to get out. So if you're talking about neurological I was rewarded for being compliant. That's when the neural pathways start to form like obedience. It becomes our default. We start equating obedience with being good, compliance with being good.

If I can do it with the upbringing I had, I think most people can learn how to defy. It's just you have to learn that skill set. You have to get out. So if you're talking about neurological I was rewarded for being compliant. That's when the neural pathways start to form like obedience. It becomes our default. We start equating obedience with being good, compliance with being good.

If I can do it with the upbringing I had, I think most people can learn how to defy. It's just you have to learn that skill set. You have to get out. So if you're talking about neurological I was rewarded for being compliant. That's when the neural pathways start to form like obedience. It becomes our default. We start equating obedience with being good, compliance with being good.