Dr. Sunita Sah

Absolutely. So we become what I call wire to comply, right? It becomes the default without thinking. Somebody says to do something, we go along and we do it. And so that's really powerful socialization, the messages that we get to obey, to be polite, you know, don't make a scene, don't question authority, listen to them.

Absolutely. So we become what I call wire to comply, right? It becomes the default without thinking. Somebody says to do something, we go along and we do it. And so that's really powerful socialization, the messages that we get to obey, to be polite, you know, don't make a scene, don't question authority, listen to them.

Absolutely. So we become what I call wire to comply, right? It becomes the default without thinking. Somebody says to do something, we go along and we do it. And so that's really powerful socialization, the messages that we get to obey, to be polite, you know, don't make a scene, don't question authority, listen to them.

And that makes a difference to the rest of our lives in a way and our default setting. But if we think about situations where we learn how to defy We need to really practice so we can change that default setting. The more that we practice, the more those other pathways start to strengthen. For example, I have these five stages of defiance.

And that makes a difference to the rest of our lives in a way and our default setting. But if we think about situations where we learn how to defy We need to really practice so we can change that default setting. The more that we practice, the more those other pathways start to strengthen. For example, I have these five stages of defiance.

And that makes a difference to the rest of our lives in a way and our default setting. But if we think about situations where we learn how to defy We need to really practice so we can change that default setting. The more that we practice, the more those other pathways start to strengthen. For example, I have these five stages of defiance.

So the first one, like usually when we're in a situation where we want to defy or we think we should, we feel some kind of tension. So our body immediately tells us we don't think this is quite right. So I felt it with a CT scan. I'm sure you've been in situations where you felt like, oh, I don't know about that. Yeah. And so often we just ignore it. We think it's not worth our doubt. Exactly.

So the first one, like usually when we're in a situation where we want to defy or we think we should, we feel some kind of tension. So our body immediately tells us we don't think this is quite right. So I felt it with a CT scan. I'm sure you've been in situations where you felt like, oh, I don't know about that. Yeah. And so often we just ignore it. We think it's not worth our doubt. Exactly.

So the first one, like usually when we're in a situation where we want to defy or we think we should, we feel some kind of tension. So our body immediately tells us we don't think this is quite right. So I felt it with a CT scan. I'm sure you've been in situations where you felt like, oh, I don't know about that. Yeah. And so often we just ignore it. We think it's not worth our doubt. Exactly.

Is it worth it? Yes.

Is it worth it? Yes.

Is it worth it? Yes.

And we probably have our own signs, right? People will probably feel it differently. Maybe for some people it's a headache. Maybe for some people it's their throat constricting. Maybe it's feeling butterflies. So we all have a sign that comes up. And then the second stage is to acknowledge that rather than disregard it is to admit it to yourself, right? I'm feeling something.

And we probably have our own signs, right? People will probably feel it differently. Maybe for some people it's a headache. Maybe for some people it's their throat constricting. Maybe it's feeling butterflies. So we all have a sign that comes up. And then the second stage is to acknowledge that rather than disregard it is to admit it to yourself, right? I'm feeling something.

And we probably have our own signs, right? People will probably feel it differently. Maybe for some people it's a headache. Maybe for some people it's their throat constricting. Maybe it's feeling butterflies. So we all have a sign that comes up. And then the second stage is to acknowledge that rather than disregard it is to admit it to yourself, right? I'm feeling something.

Yeah, avoid it. And that's a shame because it's a warning sign. And if we actually listen to it, it could help us because we just need to like, why am I feeling this way? What does it actually mean? I felt it with a CT scan and I was like, OK, but it actually got worse as I carried on having the CT scan. It didn't go away.

Yeah, avoid it. And that's a shame because it's a warning sign. And if we actually listen to it, it could help us because we just need to like, why am I feeling this way? What does it actually mean? I felt it with a CT scan and I was like, OK, but it actually got worse as I carried on having the CT scan. It didn't go away.

Yeah, avoid it. And that's a shame because it's a warning sign. And if we actually listen to it, it could help us because we just need to like, why am I feeling this way? What does it actually mean? I felt it with a CT scan and I was like, OK, but it actually got worse as I carried on having the CT scan. It didn't go away.

And so I felt it more. And then I felt so much regret afterwards, like how easy would it have been for me to say no? Why couldn't I say no? Actually, it wasn't that easy. But what can I do to make sure I say no next time? And so feeling the tension, acknowledging it to yourself. And then stage three is the real critical stage is just vocalizing it to someone else.

And so I felt it more. And then I felt so much regret afterwards, like how easy would it have been for me to say no? Why couldn't I say no? Actually, it wasn't that easy. But what can I do to make sure I say no next time? And so feeling the tension, acknowledging it to yourself. And then stage three is the real critical stage is just vocalizing it to someone else.