Dr. Sunita Sah

And so I felt it more. And then I felt so much regret afterwards, like how easy would it have been for me to say no? Why couldn't I say no? Actually, it wasn't that easy. But what can I do to make sure I say no next time? And so feeling the tension, acknowledging it to yourself. And then stage three is the real critical stage is just vocalizing it to someone else.

And the reason that stage is so critical is because if you tell someone else you're not comfortable with this, you've stated how you feel. You can't then go back and rationalize to yourself, I was actually okay with it after all, right? You know, it was fine. So once you've said that, all you have to do then is continue saying it. And this was the same in the Milgram experiment.

And the reason that stage is so critical is because if you tell someone else you're not comfortable with this, you've stated how you feel. You can't then go back and rationalize to yourself, I was actually okay with it after all, right? You know, it was fine. So once you've said that, all you have to do then is continue saying it. And this was the same in the Milgram experiment.

And the reason that stage is so critical is because if you tell someone else you're not comfortable with this, you've stated how you feel. You can't then go back and rationalize to yourself, I was actually okay with it after all, right? You know, it was fine. So once you've said that, all you have to do then is continue saying it. And this was the same in the Milgram experiment.

So there were people, even though two thirds of the subjects went up to 450 dangerous shocks, And they were called the obedient subjects. Not all of them did this willingly, right? Yes, I'm going to shock that person.

So there were people, even though two thirds of the subjects went up to 450 dangerous shocks, And they were called the obedient subjects. Not all of them did this willingly, right? Yes, I'm going to shock that person.

So there were people, even though two thirds of the subjects went up to 450 dangerous shocks, And they were called the obedient subjects. Not all of them did this willingly, right? Yes, I'm going to shock that person.

Milgram called them the moral imbeciles, but they were groaning, nervous laughter. They had these signs of tension, the nervous laughter. Oh, I have that for sure. And then I will smile. I have what a colleague of mine called the crocodile smile, is that as soon as I'm uncomfortable, I'll be like... Yeah. Okay. Oh, that's funny.

Milgram called them the moral imbeciles, but they were groaning, nervous laughter. They had these signs of tension, the nervous laughter. Oh, I have that for sure. And then I will smile. I have what a colleague of mine called the crocodile smile, is that as soon as I'm uncomfortable, I'll be like... Yeah. Okay. Oh, that's funny.

Milgram called them the moral imbeciles, but they were groaning, nervous laughter. They had these signs of tension, the nervous laughter. Oh, I have that for sure. And then I will smile. I have what a colleague of mine called the crocodile smile, is that as soon as I'm uncomfortable, I'll be like... Yeah. Okay. Oh, that's funny.

Yeah. It's an appeasement. Okay, I'm not a threat. Exactly. I can't let my face betray me. Yeah.

Yeah. It's an appeasement. Okay, I'm not a threat. Exactly. I can't let my face betray me. Yeah.

Yeah. It's an appeasement. Okay, I'm not a threat. Exactly. I can't let my face betray me. Yeah.

That third stage, if you could say, I'm not comfortable with this or the people in the Milgram experiments, is he actually okay? If they had resisted four times, that was the experiment. There was four prompts. then the experiment would have ended. So you just then need to continue. And stage four is that threat of noncompliance. I can't go through with it.

That third stage, if you could say, I'm not comfortable with this or the people in the Milgram experiments, is he actually okay? If they had resisted four times, that was the experiment. There was four prompts. then the experiment would have ended. So you just then need to continue. And stage four is that threat of noncompliance. I can't go through with it.

That third stage, if you could say, I'm not comfortable with this or the people in the Milgram experiments, is he actually okay? If they had resisted four times, that was the experiment. There was four prompts. then the experiment would have ended. So you just then need to continue. And stage four is that threat of noncompliance. I can't go through with it.

Yeah. Stage three, you're still in a subservient position.

Yeah. Stage three, you're still in a subservient position.

Yeah. Stage three, you're still in a subservient position.

Yes. And then four is stating that you can't. And then five is your final act of defiance.