Dr. Tara Swart
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511 appearances
9 recordings
7 series
first heard Dec 2024
last heard 24 May
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And if there is something that they don't love about you, you want to hide that for all the world so that they will still love you and not let you die.
No.
So you hide it away in childhood and often find yourself in adulthood no longer even aware of what those things are because you've rejected them so deeply.
Yeah. But that's driving a lot of your unconscious behavior.
So if you put together the inner child and the shadow, then what happens is you meet people on the same level of psychological wound as you. Oh, man. You also leave people where if you evolve out of that and they haven't been able to. Wow.
Yeah. Is that right? It's not smell. It's sensing, not through smell, the level of the stress hormone, yeah. Interesting. But that's short-term, right? But the inner child and shadow stuff is longer-term.
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Oh, I can see the cogs moving in your brain. I just think it's fascinating.
I think if it's love you're really looking for, then it's not different.
Yeah, exactly. The issue is what you're actually looking for.
Yeah, I think if you want that sense of partnership and friendship and intimacy and you want to be loyal and you want it to be for the long term, then it doesn't matter what gender you are. But if the disconnect is often, and this is a bit of a stereotype, but usually it's more that women want a loving, stable relationship and men perhaps don't want that as much.
Yeah. Or don't, you know, just don't want it right now, but go through periods where that's what they want and go through periods where that's not what they want, which I guess could be true of any gender as well. But overall, more likely women will want to like be in a monogamous relationship.
So it comes from evolution. So when we lived in the cave, women did need men to protect them from predators and to hunt for food.
I mean, they generally didn't hunt as much, so they gathered more. But then it's hard to get protein from what you gather rather than what you hunt. So for survival, and you know, they use the fat and the skins and everything. So it wasn't just food, it was shelter and fire and all of that kind of stuff. So although we don't necessarily need
a man for those physical things now, it's a very strong survival wiring in the brain. And so what we have, you know, in the cave, we lived nomadically. So often the men would go and hunt and be away for a very long time. Or if they went far enough and they found a cave of the same tribe, they would just stay there and not go back. Why risk your life to travel back for six weeks?
But over time, a lot of societies in the modern world have asked people to live in unit families. And so we have seen men's brains be rewired. Really? Yeah. Relatively recently, like maybe in the last 10 years, research has showed that when you become a dad for the first time, oxytocin rewires your brain so that you're more into bonding and less into the testosterone competitive stuff.
Because if you think about it, lions and tigers, they'll eat their own children.
Yeah.
I get this question all the time.
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