Dr. Thema Bryant

haven't even asked themselves the question of what they actually need. And I want to also say for us to have compassion means when I get it wrong or when I fall off the track, I don't say, well, now it doesn't matter. Like everything is ruined. Right. It's I start again. I begin again.

haven't even asked themselves the question of what they actually need. And I want to also say for us to have compassion means when I get it wrong or when I fall off the track, I don't say, well, now it doesn't matter. Like everything is ruined. Right. It's I start again. I begin again.

haven't even asked themselves the question of what they actually need. And I want to also say for us to have compassion means when I get it wrong or when I fall off the track, I don't say, well, now it doesn't matter. Like everything is ruined. Right. It's I start again. I begin again.

Yeah. Thank you so much for your transparency and for sharing your heartbreak. The first thing I want to say to you is you are not actually grieving the relationship. You're grieving your idea of what you thought the relationship would be. Because in reality, he was not who you thought he was.

Yeah. Thank you so much for your transparency and for sharing your heartbreak. The first thing I want to say to you is you are not actually grieving the relationship. You're grieving your idea of what you thought the relationship would be. Because in reality, he was not who you thought he was.

Yeah. Thank you so much for your transparency and for sharing your heartbreak. The first thing I want to say to you is you are not actually grieving the relationship. You're grieving your idea of what you thought the relationship would be. Because in reality, he was not who you thought he was.

And so the relationship is not actually one that was mutually nourishing, mutually respectful, mutually edifying. And so it makes sense.

And so the relationship is not actually one that was mutually nourishing, mutually respectful, mutually edifying. And so it makes sense.

And so the relationship is not actually one that was mutually nourishing, mutually respectful, mutually edifying. And so it makes sense.

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

Right? That it's not actually you miss them. It's you miss your idea of who you thought they were. Right? Yeah. And then, you know, when we talk about the aftermath, sometimes we create a story about why it happened because we want things to make sense.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so in your story creation of why it happened, you may be looking at yourself or blaming yourself or shaming yourself when the truth of it really may have nothing to do with you. It may be that he had or he or she had access. It may be just for fun. It may be that they were socialized to never be faithful and have not been faithful their whole lives.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

And so sometimes we try to, it's an illusion of control. If I figure out what I did wrong and I do it different this time, I'll be safe. And so I invite you to release yourself from the lie that you could have made it be different. Yeah. The person who could have made it be different is the other person, right? That is so powerful.

We desire. Yeah, we desire the control. And let me say the part of you that was immediately like, I don't want relationships again is actually a healthy part. It's good to be still after a breakup. Sometimes people jump right out there and they go pick a new person, different name, different face, same personality, same cycle. So it's an indication of healthiness to pause.

We desire. Yeah, we desire the control. And let me say the part of you that was immediately like, I don't want relationships again is actually a healthy part. It's good to be still after a breakup. Sometimes people jump right out there and they go pick a new person, different name, different face, same personality, same cycle. So it's an indication of healthiness to pause.