Dr. Tristan Ingalls

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4,386 appearances 21 recordings 1 series first heard Mar 2025 last heard 31 Aug

Dr. Tristan Ingalls’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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Recordings per month over the last 12 months — 19 in all, peaking in Jul 2026 with 9.

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Serial Killers & Murderous Minds · Shelly Michael: Nurse, Wife, and Killer Pt. 1 · 24 Aug 2026 podcast

Traditionally, it asks you to imagine that you wake up tomorrow and overnight, by some miracle, the problem, whatever it is, has been solved. voice-verified

What would be different? voice-verified

What would your life look like? voice-verified

Applied here. voice-verified

I would ask: if you woke up tomorrow and your current relationship was exactly what you had always hoped it would be. voice-verified

So, for example, it's safe, it's loving. voice-verified

Loving, supportive, respectful, would you still want to be with this new person and risk your marriage? voice-verified

If the answer is yes, then you're probably moving towards something you genuinely want. voice-verified

If the answer is no, or you're not sure, you may be wanting to escape your current situation. voice-verified

Another useful question in this particular situation is: if this new person, in this case Jimmy, didn't voice-verified

Represent a fresh start or an escape from your current marriage, would you still choose him? voice-verified

That question encourages people to separate the person from what we imagine life with that person could be. voice-verified

None of these questions are going to really tell you the answer, but they can tell you the underlying needs that might be influencing your decision. voice-verified

And that's why I love the miracle question because it helps. voice-verified

people identify those underlying needs, the subconscious ones. voice-verified

By the end of voice-verified

had it all. voice-verified

There's a psychological concept called the hedonic treadmill, along with something known as the arrival fallacy. voice-verified

The hedonic treadmill refers to our tendency to adapt to improvements in our lives and then looking for the next goal. voice-verified

And the arrival fallacy is the mistaken belief that once I achieve this next milestone or goal, then I'll finally be happy. voice-verified

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