Dr. Yalda Safai
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first heard Apr 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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If this is truly what you want, with what you do, with the way you carry yourself, with the choices you make in life, you attract that mate in the right time. Timing matters. I don't know if you believe in God, but Gods timing is perfect. You might feel like you need to be in a relationship at a certain point in life. It probably isn't the right time for you. You probably have more work to do.
I think about this. If I had met somebody when I was 34, before I hit the road, I would not have gone to 70 countries. I would not have seen the world. I would not have met the people I did, the food I ate around the world. I would not have expanded my horizon the way I did. And I was only able to do that because I was single. I had no responsibilities, no obligations, nobody to answer to.
But I'm so grateful for that experience I had for those three, four years because I came out a more confident person, a more knowledgeable person. My needs and wants changed in life. And, you know, I attracted the mate that I was supposed to at that time in life. So now looking back, I realize, you know, girl, three, four years ago, it was not the right time for you. But now I understand.
So one day you will understand why it didn't work out with all those other people. You will understand why you had to go through the heartbreaks that you did. Because once you are in a good relationship, you appreciate it ten times more. Every day I'm so thankful for my partner. Because now I understand all those other flawed relationships I had. I understand why they didn't have to work.
I understand why they were toxic. But at the time, they didn't. So have faith. He will come. Or she or whoever.
So what I've noticed of why people stay in relationships that are not good for them is fear. And this fear is, what do I do without him? What do I do if I leave? I might not ever find anybody else again. It's all based on fear. Because who wants to stay in a relationship where there's stress every day?
But you have to understand what it is you're fearing, though. It's different for a lot of people. Oh, I remember at one point in time, I was like 27 years old, I had a terrible boyfriend. And my fear of breaking up with him was like, oh, people are gonna, I mean, this is childish, but people are gonna ask me what happened to my guy that I was engaged to. And, you know, what am I gonna tell them?
Like, this is the dumbest fear in the world. What am I gonna tell my friends? But like, I'm saying like, everybody's fears are a little bit different.
So you gotta figure out what your fear is, why you're stuck in this relationship and take it and run with it. If you need professional help, get it. Sometimes, you know, when we're in this bubble or when we're in this toxic relationship, we don't have clarity. We get tunnel vision. We don't understand.
And no matter how many times our friends or family tell us that, you know, something's not right, we just don't get it. So I tell those people, like, If women do not want to go on dating apps as a psychiatrist, what do you recommend? Find what you love doing and do it. And you will attract the person who's like-minded. So for example, I love skiing. I was in the French Alps skiing.
I found him while I was skiing on the French Alps. I was doing what I love to do. You know, I did what I love to do. You know, I wasn't going out of my way thinking, how am I going to meet men? That's, you know, that's no way to live your life. Do you do what gives you pleasure? The right man will be attracted to the things you like as well. And you'll meet that way.
Ich muss dir sagen, jemand, der zu dir geht, ist es wahrscheinlich nicht wert, um zu beginnen. Warum? Weil die Leute wählen, sich nicht zu konfrontieren und nicht zu verbalisieren, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, weil es für sie unangenehm ist. Eine Person, die nicht erklären kann, warum sie dich nicht mehr sehen wollen, die wollen sie eher vermeiden, als dich zu konfrontieren.
How is that person going to do in a relationship? Relationships are full of little things, little, you might fight with your spouse. You have to be able to properly deal with confrontation and express what you're feeling, your likes and dicks, whatever it is. So someone who can't do that, who rather avoid, is a big red flag to me. So you lucked out.
It really is, but remember, this is not about you. You don't know what's going on in that person's life, what stage of life they are in, what... They need right now. And the timing might have just not been right. Just remember, it's not about you. It's about them and where they are. If they didn't like you to begin with, they wouldn't have come out with you.
They wouldn't have gone on a date with you or dated you to begin with. So just remember, this is not about you.
I'm really glad you mentioned this because I'm a physician, but we didn't learn much about menopause in medical school. I've heard that. I look back on it now and I'm like, how is this even possible? How much did you learn? Very little. Maybe like half a lecture.
Yeah.
Not too much. No.
Yeah. And it's for people like you who are vocal about it, that there's so much spotlight shed on it now. So I want to thank you for that. It's thanks to you and people in the media who have a voice that shed light on it, that the rest of us are now more aware. So I'm pretty 100% sure the medical curriculum is going to be changing. I can't wait. People are going to be talking about it.
So thank you.
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