Dr. Zelana Montminy

We sort of filled our lives so that we don't ever have to feel uncomfortable or just that we have to slow down.

We keep going because...

honestly, a lot of us don't really want to address the stuff that's hard to like the unspoken grief, the disappointment of maybe your partner spoke to you in a way that you didn't like this morning, but it's so much easier to triple screen on Netflix and buy groceries at the same time and sit right next to him than to actually address it.

So those are all the kinds of things that we're dealing with throughout the day.

And then

There's multiple things they talk about a lot in the book.

I think that's like the emotional thief that we feel like we have to fill every pause so we don't have to feel anything.

And that's our emotional avoidance that fractures our ability to really pay attention to anything and to focus.

And so when you can actually sit through that discomfort, and I actually talk a lot about prescribing boredom.

to ourselves because we don't feel it anymore, but it's almost like brain training.

It's like emotional tolerance and focus training, right?

So those are just some of them, but there's lots of thieves.

I highlighted a few in the book, but there's so many more.

There's constant overstimulation.

That's the overwhelm thief, right?

The overstimulation is mistaken for productivity.

And we say, oh, we're being so productive, right?

But we're actually not.

It keeps our stress responses activated.

There's also the myth of multitasking, which I'm not sure if you