Drew Burney

You know what I think self-acceptance also gives you?

Actual clarity.

We talked about the personality test, the MBTI and all that.

And one of the things we're seeking is clarity against that uncertainty that we have.

This is another level of clarity.

Once you hit that self-acceptance, you're like, oh, this is actually who I am.

Not what this test told me.

not what somebody else told me or whatever, when you've actually figured out and internalized it and like, okay, this is actually who I am, then you do have a lot of clarity around that.

Yeah, so actually there was a more direct test of this about 55 years later too.

In 2013, Celeste Kidd, she replicated this study on a small scale, but still what she varied in this study was the actual reliability.

Because that was a hypothesis.

Are these kids, are they really just making decisions based on how reliable they think the adults in the room are?

And that's exactly what she found.

So she had a reliable and an unreliable condition.

And the kids who were in the unreliable condition where the adults lied to them first and then they did the marshmallow test or the adults made good on a promise first and then they gave them the marshmallow test.

Nearly all of the kids in the unreliable condition took the marshmallow right away.

Nearly all of the kids in the more reliable condition didn't.

So right there, it's just that in an experimental setting, right in the moment, there's no personality to vary here.

There's no trait that really the kids have.

It's just, do they trust this adult or not?