Drew Burney

And so, okay, we said, all right, we're going to work on this.

Okay.

And we did.

And it was like, what I realized was, oh, these bids for attention and affection,

They're really not that bad.

You just, you give them a little bit and they're fine.

And then you can return back to your homeostasis, right?

That's kind of bleeding into the emotional adaptation layer a little bit.

I can handle those emotions, but that's just like in the receiving of it.

I still don't express my needs very well because that's scary to me.

And so I avoid them.

That's the avoidant part of it.

I have not addressed the underlying beliefs around this.

I have not addressed the underlying narratives around this at all.

I'm no more secure than I was before, but I felt like I was for a long time.

But I've had this like recent realization.

So I'm in this space right now around what do I replace those adaptations with?

And I'm not really even sure because I just identified it.

Like the belief slash narrative that I have, I think that's underlying all of this is just a fear of abandonment.

That's what it is.