Drew Burney

His argument is that the ought-driven changes, though, are exhausting, unstable, and ultimately just bound to fail.

Because the goal of that is avoiding being seen and being seen poorly by other people.

And as soon as that collapses, as soon as that motivation collapses, as soon as that comes under threat, we just abandon it.

Whereas if we're motivated by the ideal self, that's something we can shoot towards, aim towards.

You talked about your entrepreneurship.

You're like, I knew this is what I wanted to do, so it kind of didn't matter.

You weren't motivated by the other people in your life, even if they were coming at you kind of.

That's a case of where that's a very ideal, motivated change that you can sustain both emotionally and even just in the long run, you're going to be able to do that a lot more easily.

It really is around the pain and the discomfort

That's the sign that you're doing it right.

That's where you just have to sit for a while.

And this is where these things are figured out.

This is where your adaptations are reworked.

This is where the new you comes in.

It's a painful, painful process.

Like I said, I've been saying for years.

Pain is a great teacher.

I don't think there's any other way to change, at least not for me.

I know it's not for me.

I don't respond well to rewards.