Dylan Selterman

And that doesn't go away just because you have an affair.

It could be that the affair is just motivated by something different.

It's not about love.

Maybe.

I think humans are very horny sexual creatures.

We have sex even in situations when we know that procreation is impossible, which is uncommon in the animal kingdom.

So we're doing it all throughout our lives, all throughout the day, all throughout the month, all the time.

And that's in part because sex is just intrinsically...

good.

It's just it's pleasurable and it helps us in terms of connection and bonding.

So, yeah, people are of all ages are having lots of sex.

Of the people we surveyed who said that they had an affair, meaning they signed up and actually met an affair partner and did the deed, on average, those people said that they were highly satisfied in emotional terms and in sexual terms and felt little regret.

So that doesn't mean nobody felt regret.

It just means on average, the people who were there felt like they were not doing anything wrong.

That's a great question in general for us to answer from a moral perspective.

Like, why do people do things that they think are immoral in a general sense?

Because if you look at national surveys, the vast majority of people, like over 90%, will say,

infidelity is wrong and yet you have the occurrence of affairs and so it could be that people are trying to justify it somehow in their minds they're trying to carve out some kind of exception maybe they're cheating because they feel like they have no other option you know they feel like

Sex is important to them and their partner doesn't want to have sex and they don't want to break up their relationships.

They're going to do the least bad thing possible, which is to have an affair.