Ed Mylett

You've got mentors and friends that are 120, 150.

They heat you up by proximity.

So there's faith, there's association, and there's intention.

These are three things I call the trilogy of increasing one's identity.

So association is a big one.

So that's why it's important to evaluate who are you hanging around?

Do they just make you feel good?

Do they validate your thermostat settings or do they increase your thermostat settings?

So identity is a major, major root cause disease of self-sabotage.

And again, we're gonna cover the seven symptoms in a minute.

The other thing to evaluate is

is in our life, remember this, we like to move towards what's familiar and we all want to have a sense of self-control in our life.

So we move towards what's familiar and we don't like the feeling of being out of control.

So I'm going to submit to you something that maybe you've never heard before.

You probably have never heard the thermostat analogy, but I'll give you another one.

Maybe the reason you self-sabotage

is because it allows you to predict the future.

It allows you to predict what's going to happen, which is giving you the illusion of self-control.

Think about that again.

Maybe the reason you're self-sabotaging is because it allows you to predict what's actually going to happen because it's going to become familiar.