Ed Mylett

And it gives you this illusion of self-control.

Maybe that's what's going on behind the scenes.

This identity thing, will we cool it back down?

Because we don't like to go to the unfamiliar.

We don't like to move where we've never been before.

And so self-sabotage allows our lives to become predictable because they'll stay the way they've always been.

Isn't that interesting?

Now, what are seven symptoms of the two diseases I just described?

Number one thing that people do that sabotage themselves, and this is in no order, but I'm going to give you seven of them.

Number one thing they do, they focus on the past.

They focus on the past.

They look backwards a lot.

You know, there's this analogy that the rearview mirror is smaller than the windshield for a reason because you should be looking through the windshield.

But the truth is the inside of the car that you're sitting in, the present place you're sitting is even bigger than the windshield.

And I can tell you that people that are growing, that aren't sabotaging themselves, spend very little time looking in the rearview mirror.

They spend some time looking in the windshield forward, but they spend a lot of time fully present at where they are.

And if you're looking in the past all the time, you're going to repeat it.

If you're looking in the past, the reason you look back there is it's familiar.

The reason you can look back there is you can predict it.

The reason you look back there is you've tied a story to it that you're very familiar with.