Eleanor Doyle

But it saved our lives because if he didn't go in there, I would still have been trying to make everything perfect because one morning I'll wake up and he'll be fine.

You know, he'll stop drinking.

Every day.

Yeah, every morning I'd wake up and I'd be, today will be the day.

today will be the day I think it got so bad like he'd open a can in front of me and I'd be like I'm not drinking like when you think how bizarre it was then he came home and sure he was great everything was going to be fine and I said to him look I've done a lot for you and I've supported you I said but please make me one promise if you go back to drinking please leave me alone and let me give the children a good upbringing I said just that much is what I ask of you and he just said absolutely

So it was time, a few weeks went down, like I knew it.

The behaviours came back in.

I just knew it.

Like, you know, it was the elephant in the room.

And he was denied that he was back drinking this, that and the other.

And then I suppose I just confronted him.

I said, you are.

And he said, sure, might as well be because you're confronting me about it all the time and this, that and the other.

fall out and he remained in the house for six months and he sat at the coffee table in the sitting room and the kids and i would come home from school because i worked in the school and we passed the sitting room and he wouldn't even acknowledge us he did this for six months and i know people out there going oh my god you let him do this for six months

When you are so deep in something, you cannot see, you cannot see what's going on.

So it was that bad.

I just didn't know what to do, do you know?

And then I suppose I started to confide a bit in my sister, kind of giving her little bits and little pieces.

And it was just the fear of what would happen or what he'd do or

So anyway, I said to him, I said, this isn't working.