Elena Brower

Recently, my sister and I had a pretty real talk.

She was expressing some frustrations to me, really understandable, totally undeniable, actually.

And in using nonviolent communication, I asked her what she would love from me.

And finally, she was able to say what she would love.

And I was able to start delivering.

And it has been a beautiful evolution.

We're in our 50s.

I'm 50, almost 56.

She's going to be 54.

And the other day on the phone for the first time, she said, I love you when she hung up.

She was like, oh, that was hard.

And I was like, well, thank you so much.

I'm so touched.

Thank you.

I receive it and love you too.

And I think because you're asking this question in the context of these very close, very long-term relations, part of the practice when we sit and when we relate,

We keep having to let go of thought.

This thought that's come, okay, I'm going to take a breath instead of follow this little trail, this breadcrumb.

This idea that's come, similarly, about this person and who they are and what they're saying, I can let go of that too and ask another question and find out something else and allow something else to be true.

And, you know, I have proof of this working now.