Elisa Donovan

Every time I try to talk to you about something important to me, you always make it about yourself.

All you care about is yourself.

And I say, oh my God, I'm so sorry.

I didn't realize I did that, right?

And I have some sense of remorse.

It may be hard for me to change it because it's all I know, but I don't want to hurt you, right?

Whereas somebody who's narcissistic, it's always about them because you're just an object, right?

You don't matter.

Your feelings, your concerns, how I'm hurting you, it doesn't, it doesn't, it's neither here nor there for you because it gives you nothing.

Wow.

So there is a piece of just simple accountability or awareness.

Yes.

Great work.

Yes.

I always tell people, narcissists do not have accountability.

They will project onto others.

They will gaslight the crap out of you to make you feel like somehow this is your fault.

And you're not sure how that is, but it is.

And so then you're apologizing when you don't even know what you're apologizing for.

Right, right, right.