Elizabeth

And he's living this

Whole other life that doesn't even feel like he's really married and is like a father most of the time.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I think that's the biggest thing is that he feels like he has to go to those.

Like he has a hard time saying no.

Um, but I, I think the thing that hurts my feelings the most is that he says no to coming home to help us like at all, but he can't say no to them.

And I think that's where the issue is lying, especially with the newborn.

Like I'm very fresh postpartum and, you know, like I could use for sure some help, especially with our toddler.

And it's

Like I'm being told no, I can't do that.

And, you know, it's even simple things that's making it really difficult.

Yeah.

Yeah, I have.

We've actually had quite a few conversations about it.

And it...

like there's small changes, but then it just like kind of falls back into the same song and dance.

And, you know, I'm very understanding when it comes to him actually working and understanding of these events and things that he has to go to.

But it's like there's almost a fork in the road of whenever it's time to kind of come home or it's staying out.

And it seems like