Ellen Pompeo
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140 appearances
2 recordings
2 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Apr 2025
Ellen Pompeo’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Oh, my God. I didn't remember that that's what it was. You know what I remember from that scene? I remember the poor prop people having to light every single candle and like the wind blowing and blowing out half of them.
There was like 17 of us trying to light all the candles.
I think there's no real roadmap to do it one way. I think it depends on the circumstance. You know, not everybody is going to like you. And you have to be okay with that. I say that to Stella all the time. You know, you don't like everybody. I don't like everybody. So not everybody is going to like you. And that's sometimes hard, but it's just a fact of life.
And you have to just swallow that pill that like you're not everybody's cup of tea. And so it's challenging. I think that, you know, sometimes I've – I think what was hard for me on set for Grey's is I felt like because I did have a position of power that I could advocate for certain people sometimes and try to fight for people when they maybe didn't feel like they had enough power.
And then to have that not be well-received. And people to, like, say, like, I don't need you to, like, do that for me. I thought, like, oh, yikes, so sorry. Like, you know? And I've learned so much. But what I've learned is every situation is different, you know? And then... You know, I've not always handled everything perfectly.
Obviously, I've stuck my foot in my mouth more times than I can choose on the show and off it. You know, but all you can do is learn. And I think the thing about me is my intention is always good. But sometimes as a sort of strong person – and I'm a strong person because I've survived a lot and dealt with a lot. So I do have a tough exterior –
Sometimes that is misconstrued as something else because I am hard on the outside and I curse like a sailor and I'll literally start a fist fight in the middle of Rodeo Drive with someone who cuts me off. I will. Don't sleep. I will. But I'm also like super soft and chewy inside. And, you know, so I'm a complex blend, I think.
Well, my manager at the time said something to me that literally hit me like a brick. He said, are you ready to be unpopular? I was like, what do you mean? And he was like, well, I just don't want you to think that everyone's going to go in and cheer for you and clap for you and bow to you and think you're the dopest thing ever because there's going to be a lot of people who are not happy for you.
And that had never occurred to me. And I was like, oh, thanks for saying that to me. It did not occur to me. And you are so right. And so that was a good prep for me that he said that. But it's true. It's not everybody – and other women have said it publicly. No, people generally – it's hard for people to celebrate other people if they have something that resembles something that they want.
It's a lot, and it's patriarchy, and it's misogyny, and that's what it is. Sports players, too. Sports players are celebrated for their contracts, crazy contracts. Not saying they're not worth it, but it's okay for them to celebrate it, and it's not okay. I think what helps me is to really focus on
To not sort of to take myself out of it and stop thinking about myself and what people think of me and just focus on what I do best, which is the work. Focus on the work and focus on when you make a lot of money as a woman, let's face it, you have power. right? So then how can I take that power and do good with it? How can I amplify someone else? How can I help someone else?
How can I lift up someone else who doesn't sit in the position of privilege that I sit in? Fuck what people think of me. Who cares? You can't control that. What you can do is use your power for good. And there's a lot of women probably in your field who would love a show on Unwell. Yeah. And who would thrive and would do anything to get on your network and be under your umbrella.
They just need a chance. You know, so who cares what people say about you? You just keep doing you and use your power to lift up other people and your power wouldn't have been for nothing.
So I'm super lucky and I have a great team of lawyers and agents, right? And then here we go once again, Shonda Rhimes. I – being a woman, I guess I'm conditioned to make sure that I'm not stepping on anybody's toes and I'm being polite, which – I guess people maybe who know me wouldn't say, well, bitch, you are not polite. But anyway, I asked Shonda first.
I said, just so you know, she doesn't really have much to do with that stuff. You know, it's business affairs and whatever. But I said to her, I'm going to go in and ask for this much. Are you cool with that? just because I don't want to be disrespectful to her. I don't want to come off crazy. And I want to let her know what moves I'm making because I do respect her. I am grateful to her.
And I do want to make sure I'm moving in the right way, right? And she was like, yeah, no one's going to give it to you. You have to ask for it. And so once I got her blessing to go ahead and do what I wanted to do, Then I said to my team, I'm okay with that. And, you know, necessarily the business people might say, you don't need to ask her permission. You don't need to do that.
And then I say, yeah, but I want to. Because truth is, I wouldn't be here without her. So I always, back to my being raised in a mafia culture, I always want to pay respect to
to the people that deserve respect and it makes me feel good to know I'm letting you know how I'm moving because to me that's polite that's courteous I'm gonna go do this I don't want to make you look crazy and it's communication and I just feel like it's good business and and people know I'm up front with them and I'm not shady I'm not I'm not shady at all I'm super up front I always say it like it is may not always land well but like I'm transparent you know
You know, I believe in honor. Yeah. And the other thing I believe in is sort of, I don't want anything that I don't deserve. I don't want anything I don't deserve and I don't want anything that I haven't worked for. And I'm happy to work for everything I have. And, you know, the CAA can, they print out a report, right?
You're curating or whatever it is, they spit it out and they let you know exactly how you move the needle. It's all in the data. You affect this many households. Your voice is recognizable to this many people. The median income in that household is this. They break it down. You see exactly how much this network makes for the parent company.
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