Emily Vernem

And I hadn't even processed it by the time it started coming out of my mouth that I was like, oh, no, I don't want to do this.

This isn't what I want my career to look like.

And what I realised was...

I had been on autopilot for about 18 months.

And again, Em, it was off the back of COVID, which I think did some weird things to all of us.

And I had just been focusing on what was in front of me.

And...

Basically, it's like if I got told I was good at something, then I just wanted to do more of it because that's lovely to hear.

And then if there was an opportunity, I would just take it and take it and take it.

But I hadn't actually stopped to think, is this making me happy?

What do I want?

And I then realised in that moment, literally when I was asked the question, that I thought, oh, the only thing I want for the next year, if I think where I am this time next year...

I don't want things to be the same.

I want them to be completely different.

I don't want to be doing this job.

I don't want to be working these hours.

I don't want to be living in my current apartment.

I want to go on a holiday.

All these goals that I've had have just been thwarted by the fact I've been following this path.

And then afterwards I came across this idea of anti-goals and the fact that this concept can be really important to pair with traditional goals where you think, okay,