Emily Vernon

It's true.

So Rory's thing is we need to plan regular, like once a year we go away together.

And the thing is that you find as you get older is sometimes

you can so easily not do that.

But when somebody does it, when somebody just does the initiative and plans it, everybody comes, it's bloody amazing.

So there are different ways of doing it.

The other thing I wanted to bring to this conversation that I think will really piss off Holly.

Is that Lila's boyfriend?

Oh, I don't know who that person is.

It's like you're derailing the conversation.

So this is what will piss you off.

I came across this excellent article in – it's a publication called Expert Editor anyway –

I hadn't seen it before, but it was a really good article.

And the headline was, and I'm not saying that this is the experience of our Outlouder who's asking for advice, but it really got me thinking.

The headline was, I worked 50-hour weeks for 35 years so my kids could have a better life.

Now they live in different cities and I eat dinner alone.

And it was about, there's this great quote that said.

It's true.

I know.

That said, have you ever noticed how we measure success in distance?