Emily Vernon

And over the years, because it's existed for a while, there are a lot of people who are not part of the family.

Who are in the family group.

Roller exes.

Yeah, no, like some members of the other side of the family or like just some of my mum's friends who are like, I'm interested in what your family's doing.

Yeah, no, I don't like that.

That stresses me out.

And I love, something I love is giving a group chat a name.

Like I really enjoy that and how it evolves over time and then you look at it and you're like where on earth did that name come from?

But it's a vibe.

Yeah.

Holly, yeah, your contribution to group chats... Yeah, I'm not really a big group chat person.

Not even, like, liking a message?

Yes, and...

I think you're right.

Some people are group chat people and some people aren't.

And it's not necessarily a sign of how invested someone is in maintaining a relationship, like whether or not they're up to date with that.

There are other ways to go about maintaining those relationships.

As I said, my husband's family's group chat is a miserable place to be.

There's just nothing happening.

But it is interesting that as an adult you realise that you have to put the same effort into maintaining your connections with your siblings and with your parents as you do any other social group.