Emma Chamberlain

I think your mood becomes dependent on your partner when you've made it such that your only potential source of fulfillment and joy is coming from the relationship.

Like if you're not putting any effort into your friendships, your work, your hobbies, your life outside of your relationship, then you can't really receive any benefit from that stuff because you're not putting any effort towards it.

You have an imbalance going on.

That's at least what I think.

OK, this is what I've experienced in my life.

Though very hard to do, it is very important that we have a solid foundation in a full life outside of our romantic relationships.

This is so hard to do.

And it's been really hard for me to do in the past.

Like I have always struggled with this.

I have a tendency to get into a relationship and it just becomes my life.

I'm just going to get all the joy and all the fulfillment out of this.

Why would I go elsewhere?

This seems to be such a valid source of all of these things.

Why would I work on developing my friendships further?

Why have hobbies?

Why focus on my career when I could get a kiss and a cuddle from my boyfriend?

It's not good.

Let me tell you, this is the worst thing you can do in a relationship for many reasons.

Not just because it makes your mood dependent on your partner, but also because it can oftentimes cause other issues.

Your partner can start to pick up on it and feel kind of smothered or feel like there's a codependency and then that can kind of end up making the partner want to create space and push away.