Emma Chamberlain

It's all a tone thing.

You know what I mean?

There's like, and you know what?

I'm a people pleaser by nature.

So I understand this desire to say yes to everything.

This fear of like, oh, if I say no, if I don't show up, people are going to think I'm upset or they're going to, you know, whatever.

And what I found over the years is if I decline an invitation with love and generosity, okay?

If I'm unbelievably warm in the way that I respond, right?

I've never once gotten any pushback.

No one's ever been like, dude, what?

Like, are you like trying to like avoid us or something?

Like it just doesn't happen because just a few little tweaks that provide some reassurance to your friends can work wonders and make it so that you can decline invitations all you want and no one ever takes it personal.

Okay, next, somebody said, my ex-best friend works in the same small industry as me and it's very awkward and uncomfortable.

How do I share space with her more comfortably?

Okay, I think you have two options here.

Option one, you could just address it directly.

Okay, this is such Emma advice.

This is just what Emma says about everything in regards to relationships.

Have a conversation about it.

Have a conversation about it.