Emma Chamberlain

It's tempting to put all of our energy into romantic relationships because there's an electricity in the romance that we don't get from our friends.

We don't get from our family.

We don't get from our hobbies.

We don't get from our career.

I swear it comes down to the sex.

I think it's actually just the sexual element that is so... I'm not a scientist, but...

from what I've read online, your brain releases a lot of chemicals when you have sex, a lot, more so than when you like respond to an email, more so than when you are sitting at a coffee shop with your friend.

Sex, it, boom, you know, there's a lot of chemicals coming out, more than normal.

And I think that combined with like also all the chemicals that explode out of your brain, see, this is why I'm not a scientist and this is why you need to take my advice with a grain of salt because I'm kind of,

Who knows what I'm saying, but you get what I'm saying.

The chemicals released in your brain also when you're in love, especially in like the honeymoon stage and stuff, it's very, it's very all consuming.

I think your mood becomes dependent on your partner when you've made it such that your only potential source of fulfillment and joy is coming from the relationship.

Like if you're not putting any effort into your friendships, your work, your hobbies, your life outside of your relationship, then you can't really receive any benefit from that stuff because you're not putting any effort towards it.

You have an imbalance going on.

That's at least what I think.

OK, this is what I've experienced in my life.

Though very hard to do, it is very important that we have a solid foundation in a full life outside of our romantic relationships.

This is so hard to do.

And it's been really hard for me to do in the past.

Like I have always struggled with this.