Emma Chamberlain

I went off on a tangent.

Let's reel it in.

As I was saying, it's very important that we have a solid foundation in a full life outside of our romantic relationships.

we should think of our romantic relationships as the cherry on top to an already wonderful life, an extra layer of reinforcement in our foundation that is not necessarily crucial.

We don't need it, but it definitely helps.

This can be hard to grasp, especially for somebody like me who really wants to have a family one day, you know, wants to have a partner, wants to have a family, I want to have kids.

Like,

I want this in my life.

And so when I get into a relationship, it's really hard for me not to be like, this person's the center of my universe.

Otherwise, like I won't accomplish my goal of having a family and having kids.

Like, you know, this person is so important because they are, they might be the, my counterpart in this.

You know what I mean?

Like, it's hard for me not to put that person in the center of my universe.

And I want to make them a focus.

We can take it too far.

And our life outside of the relationship falls away.

And that's not good.

Our own friends, families, hobbies, passions must remain a priority in our lives when we're in love.

Okay, it's so important.

And listen, does it take a level of discipline?