Emma Chamberlain

it's taking on a new life.

It's a bit more nuanced in a love capacity, in a romance capacity.

And that's a bit confusing, you know what I mean?

Because I don't feel like the definition of detachment in romance is the same as the actual definition of detachment.

It seems like everybody's using a different sort of definition when it's in that context, which is confusing.

So it makes sense that, you know, I kind of doubted this whole thing in the beginning.

But upon watching videos, I was shocked to hear the way people are using this word, okay?

According to people on the internet, detachment in romance and in love

is as follows, okay?

It's not about not caring about the person.

It's not about being aloof, being coy.

It's about being emotionally separated from the other person in a healthy way to help reduce love-induced anxiety and ensure that you maintain your own sense of self, okay?

It's not about being detached fully.

It seems to me, based on what I've gathered, that it's more about

Detaching yourself just enough that you can still maintain your own, like, you are still the center of your universe, you know?

You are still your number one priority.

It's kind of like taking care of yourself before taking care of others.

It's like the airplane safety manual.

You know, they say, like, if the oxygen masks come down, you put your mask on before you put anyone else's on.

In order to take care of others, you have to take care of yourself in a way.