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Welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything that you want advice on, and then I give you my unprofessional advice, and then you take it with a grain of salt. And today's topic is finding comfort within yourself. Listen, I know it can be tempting to find comfort in other people, in distractions. But here's the problem with that. It's inconsistent. It's unreliable. What's more plentiful than something that's coming from within, something that you're creating, something that you have maximum control over? That's why I think we all want to find comfort within ourselves, but it's challenging. It takes work. It's much easier to rely on something else because there's no creation going on there.
You know, you don't have to create anything. from within. You don't have to do any of the dirty work if you're just finding it out in the world. Before I start going down a rabbit hole that even I can't follow because I'm already feeling myself doing that right now, let's just get into this episode. I briefly interrupt this episode to let you know that this episode is presented by Volkswagen. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I love to be a
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I am wired to be alone. I've spent so much time alone in my life. It comes very naturally to me. And I've always been someone who felt really comfortable doing things alone. since I was a teenager, going and getting a coffee, going thrift shopping, doing whatever. It's never been embarrassing for me. Overall, I would say I'm someone who's pretty comfortable with doing things alone. However, recently, I've been kind of overthinking it. And I know why. It's because I just got out of a two-year relationship. And this two-year relationship was very bestie vibes. Like me and my boyfriend hung out all the time, which I didn't have in the relationship prior. So I still was doing a lot of stuff alone. In my last relationship, I like did everything with him.
Like we were inseparable besties vibes and it was very fun, but it kind of weakened the muscle. And so since the breakup, I've been feeling a bit less comfortable with doing stuff alone. I don't think that's a bad thing. I mean, listen, I could psychoanalyze my past relationship and say, I should have been doing more things alone while we were together. But we were having fun. So I'm not going to say that. This is just sometimes the way things happen. That muscle got weakened because I was constantly doing things with him. And now... I'm back to doing things alone. The weekend rolls around. If all my friends are busy and I want to go do something fun, I'm going to go do it alone. And there have been a few instances lately where I've been genuinely nervous.
And it shocks me every time because it's just so unlike me. And so I have been actively working on dealing with those slightly anxious feelings about doing things alone. So this is a very... This is the perfect time for this question to come up because this is something I've been dealing with lately. The first thing I do to help myself with this is remind myself of the reality of the situation, okay? People aren't paying that close of attention to me. They're really not. An exercise that I do is I think of how I perceive other people doing activities alone. When I'm at a cafe, when I'm at a thrift store and I notice that somebody's shopping alone, getting a coffee alone, do I even think twice about it?
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