Emma Chamberlain

And I think that those experiences that I've had in the past...

have forced me to work on releasing expectations because I think the fall is much harder when you're wrong than if you just didn't know, if you just accept that you didn't know what was going to happen and you left it open-ended.

But see, I'm not somebody who likes to leave things open-ended.

I love having a plan.

But I think in certain things in life, having a super buttoned up plan, it can backfire.

And I think the concept of detachment in romance is like, detach yourself from the outcome.

I would argue almost completely.

Now, this is perhaps up for debate.

Again, I'm not an authority on this topic, but the way that I internalized it was...

detaching from the outcome completely, especially in dating.

Listen, you want to have goals, right, in your life.

You want to have dreams, et cetera.

But I think on a micro scale, like say when you're dating somebody

And, you know, I will say obviously this rabbit hole that I went down was mainly about dating and love and relationships.

So that was why I internalized it in this way.

Like, in dating, I think it's not a bad idea to detach from the outcome completely until...

And there's a conversation had between you and your partner that's super serious about what the future is.

But I think a lot of times we jump to conclusions really early on.

And I think detaching from the outcome can be incredibly helpful in dating.

It's like, okay, third date, this is going really well, but I don't know what's going to happen.