Esther Perel
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You know, what happened there?
I think that there is a big difference between sex and eroticism.
Between doing the act, for which you may do a lot and feel very little.
and doing very little for which you may feel a lot, which is the erotic that involves your imagination, touch, meaning.
Why the experience of it rather than just the act of it?
Sex is not just something you do, it's a place you go.
A lot of things happen there.
So what happens to you?
That's a question.
Where do you go?
Why do you hold back?
What ignites you?
What blocks you?
Is it on your mind?
Is it not on your mind?
Is there something that has been unpleasant that you've never talked about?
Does it hurt and you never say anything?
In order to want sex, it needs to be sex that is worth wanting.
And many times women, girls want it less, not because they're less interested in it, but because it's not the sex that they want.
It's not what they're looking forward to.