Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
You're dealing with loss.
You're dealing with illness.
You're dealing with children.
You're dealing with no work.
You're dealing with loss of your best friends, whatever.
You need to be able to talk.
But talking is not the same as dishing.
Blame, blame, blame, blame.
And I'm the victim of the other person's doing.
By going outside of your own definition.
What you think is emotionally...
intelligent may not be his vocabulary.
And maybe the day something happens to you, he will show up and he'll deliver and he'll be there for you without many words.
We have many vocabularies.
Words is one.
And girls are often more trained to be in verbal vocabulary.
We talk, you know, partly because we've been taught to distrust our bodies.
So we became masters of talk intimacy.
But intimacy can be experienced in a lot of different ways that don't involve the only words.
And by the way, we talk with our bodies for 18 months before we utter the first word.