Esther Perel

So our mother tongue is often physical.

Emotional intelligence and intellectual compatibility is different things.

You know, if it's very, very important for you to be with someone with whom you can have these meaty conversations, know that upfront.

Know that upfront.

If you say discussing how I should handle my mother is not something that I do talk about with my boyfriend because I don't think that his advice, then go to your girlfriends.

Do not think that one person can give you what an entire village should provide.

A boyfriend is wanting a boyfriend.

A girlfriend, if you're a girl, is wanting a girlfriend.

We need a community.

You need to diversify.

Better relationships, stronger relationships are often diversified.

You know exactly, when I have this kind of issue or this kind of interest, that's not where I go.

I have my friends with whom I share those things and I have my friends with whom I talk about those things.

That is not what I do with my partner.

And that is okay.

I love the question because it is probably one of the most important changes that took place between your grandmother and you.

You know, when marriage was a one-stop enterprise from which you could not get out, then you had no choice but staying.

Everything changed with divorce, with the democratization of divorce, with no-fault divorce, and with women being in the workforce so that they can actually take care of themselves and not worry about the destitution and the loss of their children.

And now that you can leave, you should go.

If you stay, it becomes a sign of no self-esteem, no self-confidence, weakness, the opposite of what it used to be.