Esther Perel

Of course, I mean, you know, it's written, they take it.

And then sometimes I say, ah, they got that piece.

And I feel even more seen, of course.

And then sometimes I say, this is just, it lacks the soul.

It lacks all the pieces in between.

It's like Swiss cheese.

It's okay.

There's lots of holes, you know.

So,

I think when you talk about porn versus sex, you're talking about the focus on the outcome.

The porn activates the arousal.

It doesn't particularly care about the desire.

It doesn't have much of a foreplay, but it has a few things actually that AI offers.

You are never rejected in porn.

You never have to deal with competence and performance because the other person is always somehow enjoying it.

And you never have to deal with the mystery of the truthful experience that the other person is feeling because all they say is, me too, more, more.

In whatever version they say that.

So if it's a hetero version where you have the mystery of is this actually real or is this fake, this response that I'm getting, you don't have to wonder about that.

The connection for me with porn is less about the actual physicality of the porn, but more about three of the most important sexual vulnerabilities that are taken care of through porn that you never have to confront when you watch porn.

It can be very useful.