Esther Perel

It is very useful.

So that's a very simple answer.

I think it's extremely fast and clever.

And if it makes you think and if it makes you try something else and not wait for a week till you go to your next therapy session, it can be very constructive.

Now, what you highlight, though, is when she writes to me, and this is for many people today, when you get an apology, you have no idea if the person actually feels any remorse.

You don't even know if they wrote it, but you don't know if they actually even felt any remorse.

The simulation of care, the simulation of responsiveness, the simulation of emotional connection.

And yes, we are totally prone to simulation.

We are fickle people in that sense.

We're gullible.

So when you notice the difference between the time when it felt that it was her voice speaking and when she was basically speaking in this very polished, even if she took all the signs away that betrayed the source.

She didn't.

She didn't, okay.

People used to go to people who were scriptures.

We've always gone to people who wrote letters for us.

A, because they sometimes could write and we could not.

And B, because they were professionals who could write condolence letters, engagement letters, marriage wishes, breakup letters.

So we have a long historical tradition of asking for help from others that can articulate something which we cannot.

And yet what you're describing is a...

So, perhaps we are in this world to search for love, find it and lose it again and again.