Esther Perel

With each love we are born new and with each love that ends we collect a new wound.

I am covered with proud scars.

Because of the, I am proud of the scars.

And because you just reminded me, you know, a breakup is a scar.

And I thought there is something about these scars that shapes the way we love and shapes the way we trust.

and shapes who we choose to love and who we choose to be in that love.

And all of that is very curtailed in the experience, at this point anyway, with AI.

Because there is no love without the fear of loss.

The moment you begin to love, you live in parallel with the possibility of losing it.

They go hand in hand.

It is the fear of loss that makes you behave in certain ways.

It is the fear of loss that makes you be accountable in certain ways.

So I think to want something that is idealized, that has no ripples, is not the best way to learn about love.

It's a step in between.

It's a transition, but it is not the whole experience.

Yes, I do think in that kind of dialectic way.

But also, I have had many people in my office who really wanted unconditional love.

You know, if you loved me, you, and then fill in the blank.

You would do this and you wouldn't do that.

And