Esther Perel

What do you want to share?

Who do you want them to think that they are in the presence of?

Rather than this one-sided, you know, this is, that's, you know, but the piece that would help a lot with that, Alex, is that, and I think that that's one of the most

of things on the dating scene is that the dating takes place in a completely secluded place away from your life yes dating takes place either virtually maybe at some point you'll finally get to meet somebody and in flesh and and basically

At some point, if you think something is really happening here, you'll have the big reveal and you'll bring this person to your life, to your friends, to present them.

Instead of bringing the person in your life, I'm going to whatever.

I'm going to hike tomorrow.

I'm going to look for antiques tomorrow.

I'm going to bike tomorrow.

Do you want to join?

Are you into this stuff?

I'm going to the movies.

I'm going with some friends.

Join us.

That is lower the stakes.

Cause I'll tell you what I'm told, but that is so vulnerable about your friends may judge you.

Your friends may not like me, but your friends are the people that know you the most.

They will see.

they will tell you looks good or they will tell you no not not really you know and then you decide what you want anyway but bring the person in your life if it doesn't work my life didn't miss anything

Otherwise, what happens is three times a week, I'm out there dating away from the people that I really care about and with whom I actually enjoy myself.