Eve Rodsky

I mean, that was probably the most important conversation in our marriage.

aligning on what that means what's the expectation because for you you wanted like nobody lived in the house all the time and for him and then you had to say okay that's now the expectation once a day if you've done that it's been done but no unfortunately it wasn't that easy I had to actually go back to my childhood this is why I said if you've never done this before do the exercise I just said take three cards the ones I just gave you

and to your listeners, and just sit down when emotion is low, cognition is high, and ask how it was done in your home.

What changed Seth finally, and this is why this, unfortunately, fair play is a practice.

It's like exercise, guys.

Now we're hearing about strength training.

We have to practice it.

It is not a one and done conversation.

It is just like exercise.

And one of the big practices was having these minimum standard of care conversations for the cards the other person was going to own.

which takes time.

So I will say the onboarding, just like in a company, onboarding in a company, the best companies take six months to onboard.

They have a mentor, they really indoctrinate you in the company.

The worst, like my law firm was like, figure it out, two days, and then I was miserable.

But in the onboarding affair play, unfortunately, it wasn't, okay, this will be our standard.

It was Seth.

I may have said this to you off screen before, Nicole.

I grew up

In a home where I was taking care of my mother starting at seven, there were eviction notices on our door.

I wrote out her rent checks.