Fearne Cotton

When I've had it in the past, I found getting critical feedback tricky or even someone confronting me or saying something offensive.

you know, that just feels full on or like a bit of a personal moment.

I found that very difficult because I've instantly turned on myself like, yeah, they're right and I'm wrong.

They're right and I've got this all wrong and I'm a big mess or whatever it might be or I'm shit, I'm going to give up.

I've taken it way, way too seriously and way too far.

What would your advice be for sort of being able to receive any kind of feedback or critique at work or within friendship circles or

I am.

No, because these habits and I guess those moments where we know we're falling into the same habitual cycle again and again, it's so deeply ingrained.

If most of it's set in childhood, which sort of scares the shit out of me, because as a parent, you're a parent,

I sometimes worry about my every move.

Like, oh my God, that's going to have totally messed them up for adult life.

Or are they going to think this because of that?

And you can totally send yourself mad worrying about it.

But it is so deeply ingrained in all of us.

Is it possible for everybody to break those cycles?

I need to be brave and and face those yeah I mean parenting's gonna do that I had it last night where I was doing a cycle and I knew I was doing it I uh the tv wouldn't work and it was like eight o'clock at night and I promised my daughter that we would finish watching Mean Girls because we'd started it the week before and I thought that's gonna be lovely I've had the busiest day at work it's gonna be my moment just to like switch off for a

And I had a tantrum.

I was like, nothing works in this house.

And nothing works in my life.

This has been the worst day ever.